- add lazy_p2p so nodes only start background P2P for peers that actually have recent business traffic
- add need_p2p so specific peers can still request eager background P2P even when other nodes enable lazy mode
- cover the new behavior with focused connector/peer-manager tests plus three-node integration tests that verify relay-to-direct route transition
this patch optimize the udp hole punch logic:
1. allow start punch hole before stun test complete.
2. add lock to symmetric punch, avoid conflict between concurrent hole punching task.
3. support punching hole for predictable nat4-nat4.
4. make backoff of retry reasonable
Luna Yao