Replace std::time::Instant with quanta::Instant on per-packet, per-RPC,
and per-session paths. TSC-based, ~5ns vs ~25ns per now() call.
Reuses the existing `extern crate self as hotpath` alias so
`use hotpath::instant::Instant;` resolves to the same quanta type with
or without the hotpath feature. Leaves tokio::time::Instant and
smoltcp::time::Instant untouched.
this patch optimize the udp hole punch logic:
1. allow start punch hole before stun test complete.
2. add lock to symmetric punch, avoid conflict between concurrent hole punching task.
3. support punching hole for predictable nat4-nat4.
4. make backoff of retry reasonable