fix: eliminate unsafe code in packet construction and stats counters

Replace all UnsafeCell-based counters with safe alternatives:

- New ShardedCounter: per-thread TLS accumulation (thread_local crate)
  with periodic publish to static AtomicU64. Zero atomic RMW on hot path.
- ACL RuleStatsTracker: remove unsafe Arc<RuleStats> raw pointer
  mutation, use two ShardedCounter fields.
- ZCPacket: replace set_len on uninitialized BytesMut with
  write_bytes + copy_nonoverlapping before set_len.
- StatsManager UnsafeCounter/MetricData: remove UnsafeCell and
  unsafe impl Send/Sync, wrap ShardedCounter. last_updated uses
  AtomicU64 epoch millis.
- Throughput: replace UnsafeCell with AtomicU64.
- secure_datagram: fix grace-window test timestamp.

Cargo.lock

@@ -129,6 +129,12 @@ dependencies = [
  "libc",
 ]
 
+[[package]]
+name = "anes"
+version = "0.1.6"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "4b46cbb362ab8752921c97e041f5e366ee6297bd428a31275b9fcf1e380f7299"
+
 [[package]]
 name = "anstream"
 version = "0.6.15"
@@ -1145,6 +1151,12 @@ dependencies = [
  "toml 0.9.12+spec-1.1.0",
 ]
 
+[[package]]
+name = "cast"
+version = "0.3.0"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "37b2a672a2cb129a2e41c10b1224bb368f9f37a2b16b612598138befd7b37eb5"
+
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 version = "1.2.10"
@@ -1260,6 +1272,33 @@ version = "1.5.0"
 source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
 checksum = "6e4de3bc4ea267985becf712dc6d9eed8b04c953b3fcfb339ebc87acd9804901"
 
+[[package]]
+name = "ciborium"
+version = "0.2.2"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "42e69ffd6f0917f5c029256a24d0161db17cea3997d185db0d35926308770f0e"
+dependencies = [
+ "ciborium-io",
+ "ciborium-ll",
+ "serde",
+]
+
+[[package]]
+name = "ciborium-io"
+version = "0.2.2"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "05afea1e0a06c9be33d539b876f1ce3692f4afea2cb41f740e7743225ed1c757"
+
+[[package]]
+name = "ciborium-ll"
+version = "0.2.2"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "57663b653d948a338bfb3eeba9bb2fd5fcfaecb9e199e87e1eda4d9e8b240fd9"
+dependencies = [
+ "ciborium-io",
+ "half",
+]
+
 [[package]]
 name = "cidr"
 version = "0.3.1"
@@ -1605,6 +1644,42 @@ dependencies = [
  "cfg-if",
 ]
 
+[[package]]
+name = "criterion"
+version = "0.5.1"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "f2b12d017a929603d80db1831cd3a24082f8137ce19c69e6447f54f5fc8d692f"
+dependencies = [
+ "anes",
+ "cast",
+ "ciborium",
+ "clap",
+ "criterion-plot",
+ "is-terminal",
+ "itertools 0.10.5",
+ "num-traits",
+ "once_cell",
+ "oorandom",
+ "plotters",
+ "rayon",
+ "regex",
+ "serde",
+ "serde_derive",
+ "serde_json",
+ "tinytemplate",
+ "walkdir",
+]
+
+[[package]]
+name = "criterion-plot"
+version = "0.5.0"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "6b50826342786a51a89e2da3a28f1c32b06e387201bc2d19791f622c673706b1"
+dependencies = [
+ "cast",
+ "itertools 0.10.5",
+]
+
 [[package]]
 name = "critical-section"
 version = "1.2.0"
@@ -2299,6 +2374,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "clap_complete",
  "clap_complete_nushell",
  "console-subscriber",
+ "criterion",
  "crossbeam",
  "ctor 0.8.0",
  "dashmap",
@@ -2393,6 +2469,7 @@ dependencies = [
  "tempfile",
  "terminal_size",
  "thiserror 1.0.63",
+ "thread_local",
  "thunk-rs",
  "tikv-jemalloc-ctl",
  "tikv-jemalloc-sys",
@@ -5971,6 +6048,12 @@ dependencies = [
  "portable-atomic",
 ]
 
+[[package]]
+name = "oorandom"
+version = "11.1.5"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "d6790f58c7ff633d8771f42965289203411a5e5c68388703c06e14f24770b41e"
+
 [[package]]
 name = "opaque-debug"
 version = "0.3.1"
@@ -6601,6 +6684,34 @@ dependencies = [
  "time",
 ]
 
+[[package]]
+name = "plotters"
+version = "0.3.7"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "5aeb6f403d7a4911efb1e33402027fc44f29b5bf6def3effcc22d7bb75f2b747"
+dependencies = [
+ "num-traits",
+ "plotters-backend",
+ "plotters-svg",
+ "wasm-bindgen",
+ "web-sys",
+]
+
+[[package]]
+name = "plotters-backend"
+version = "0.3.7"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "df42e13c12958a16b3f7f4386b9ab1f3e7933914ecea48da7139435263a4172a"
+
+[[package]]
+name = "plotters-svg"
+version = "0.3.7"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "51bae2ac328883f7acdfea3d66a7c35751187f870bc81f94563733a154d7a670"
+dependencies = [
+ "plotters-backend",
+]
+
 [[package]]
 name = "pnet"
 version = "0.35.0"
@@ -10021,6 +10132,16 @@ dependencies = [
  "zerovec",
 ]
 
+[[package]]
+name = "tinytemplate"
+version = "1.2.1"
+source = "registry+https://github.com/rust-lang/crates.io-index"
+checksum = "be4d6b5f19ff7664e8c98d03e2139cb510db9b0a60b55f8e8709b689d939b6bc"
+dependencies = [
+ "serde",
+ "serde_json",
+]
+
 [[package]]
 name = "tinyvec"
 version = "1.8.0"